Bullies = angry mama bear!

So my deal is that I don’t put up with a lot of crap from people and tend to get myself in trouble with my mouth quite a bit. I’m impulsive and tend to get overly involved when it’s not always necessary. Saying that in advance I will start this out with a little story about my 6 year-old! Before telling the story, here are my boys in a nutshell.

Beau 8 my year-old and a born actor … from 3 years old he’s LOVED Phantom of the Opera. That being said he’s outgoing and only rarely gets nervous around others. He’s a negotiator and the life of the party.

Braden my 6 year-old is his brother’s polar opposite! He’s sensitive and shy, when put on the spot he’ll freeze and get “nervous”. He’s not very outgoing unless he’s got his brother as his sidekick; he relies so much on his brother’s wealth of confidence.

Ok, so yesterday Braden (my very sweet and sensitive son), came home from the bus crying. Apparently a 2nd grader kicked him. This is the little dickens that has had issues at the bus stop before. So here’s how it all went down:

I had this verified by another child at the bus stop … I’m not one who puts the wool over my eyes … especially with MY 8 year old … this could have been a situation where the boys asked for it and the entire situation would have looked entirely different. So anyhow my boys went to get off the bus at their normal stop and this punkin, got off so they decided to stay on until the next stop so they could avoid the little terror (I’m probably not allowed to add ‘ist’ to the end of that am I?) Meanwhile the boy ran from the bus stop he was at to the bus stop my boys were getting off and charged Braden and kicked him in the upper inner thigh (doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out what he was aiming for). Braden now has a cut on his leg from the incident. Classy move.

Keep in mind two years ago this child antagonized a 5th grader when he was a kindergartener and then got pushed to the ground. Even though he deserved it I defended him because no child should put their hands on another; I’m second guessing my interference now. The bully’s dad was PISSED his kid got hurt and was very confrontational with me because I was there and it happened (yeah right, like I had paid the 5thgrader to beat on the kindergartener … I mean really … why didn’t I think of that)

This leads me to think … if my child had been battered at the bus stop wouldn’t start showing up to assure his safety? Oh wait, I am doing that daily!

So, we told the bus driver what stop the boys need to get off at and made him aware of the issue. Then as I was driving off, I saw the ‘kick ball’ champion’s father. I’m not great at confrontation (but gifted at talking shit) so I was quite nervous but I still pulled over with the hot injun (yes, I said injun … think Tom Sawyer) blood running through my veins. I explained what happened and he just stood there silent for what seemed like an eternity. Finally he said “well, I’ll have to talk to my wife, I wasn’t there … but you know, your boys have verbally assaulted my son before, calling him a butthead”. I calmly said to him “the next time my children do ANYTHING like that please call me or come by my house because under NO circumstance is that acceptable behavior, nor is it respectful and we will not tolerate that in our house”. Everything in me wanted to scream at the top of my lungs … why aren’t you at the bus stop to supervise your son who has not only been previously assaulted physically at the bus stop.

So I pose these questions …
1) How do you deal with Bully’s with your kids?
2) What do you do about parents that you feel aren’t doing all they can/should? (keeping in mind that we never really know what’s going on in people’s houses)
3) Who could kick this sweet little boy?



As it turns out the parents did bring the boy over to apologize and all seems to be right in the world. And I’d like to add that both my sons apologized for calling him a butthead.